Hi
For a long while now - probably much of the time I have been writing this blog to be honest - I have had some form of depression. This blog has been a huge incentive to do stuff on those black dog days, so that I could take a piccy and prove to myself that I hadn't just stayed in bed all day, as I had longed to do - lol!
I enjoyed creating a blog. I learnt new IT skills. I made new friends - several of whom have become friends in "real life" too.
I only ever received 4 or so hurtful comments. I was lucky. But I am way too sensitive and they shook my already shaky confidence.
One such hurtful comment, received this week, concerned my lost babies and my Mother's Day post in general.
I have decided to stop blogging & will delete the blog in a few days time.
I was going to just delete the blog now but felt I owed you an explanation.
Thank you, to those who have only ever shown me kindness and support, for all your lovely comments these past few years. I know I am weak to give in and stop like this but maybe All Things B & B was reaching natural closure anyway.
TTFN & God Bless.
L.x.
35 comments:
Oh, no! I had just recently found you and really enjoyed your posts. I am so very sorry that a thoughtless person upset you. Will those of us who appreciate you be able to change your mind?
Jane x (and a hug too, you sound as though you need it.)
Oh Tina, I do so enjoy following your blog and am sorry that someone has hurt you so badly. Some people are just horrible and I really don't know why anyone could write such unkind things to you. You will take a few more days to think about it won't you? I have always found your writing sensitive, uplifting and inspirational given what you have suffered in life. If you have made your final decision, then my very best wishes go with you but if you do change your mind I shall look forward to catching up with you again.
If you quit they win, it's been said that living well is the best revenge. In your case your writing is the best revenge. Don't leave us, you'd be missed greatly.
I am so sorry!! :( I have been following your blog a long time and always look forward to your posts. To me they are quite enjoyable. It is so sad that people can be so horribly mean and rude. I do wish you would reconsider but of course I respect your decision and will miss hearing from you through your blog.
Take care of yourself.
Jan
I would be so sorry to lose you Lynn.
You're on my lists of favourites and I really enjoy your optimism! Why do people have to be nasty? Especially over something painful? I can't understand it; I mean if in physical conversation something hurtful slips out.... but when you write a comment you do have time to reconsider. Nasty, malicious people only bring their own cruelty back on their own heads.
Thank you for your lovely comments - in all fairness I think this person was also hurting and my blog post had caused upset. This has added to my own burden. I can not be sure that unwittingly I will not upset people. I was certainly upset by what was said to me. I have received further miscarriage counselling this week that has helped with my own grief and helped me to realise that I did not write anything intentionally bad in that post.
L.x.
Lynn, I too will hate to see you go as your blog is the first one i search for each day... you have been a sparkle in my day, a ray of sun on an otherwise cloudy afternoon (northern plains of the US...cold!) :) you seem to be a very kind person and i wish for you continued peace, joy and the love of your wonderful family. god bless
Do not EVER let the b******s get you down.
They win by that. The other writer above said that and is RIGHT.
You have far more people who love to read what you write and take pleasure in it.
I would like it that you keep on giving us pleasure.
But if too much is too much then
so be it.
Anyway I want to know about the first caravan trip.
Lynn, please reconsider.
I don't comment often (as you know sometimes things are often too wearying) and I often think I should have commented more in support of what you do.
I'm sorry that you've been upset.
I read your Mothers Day post and it touched my heart. I've also lost a baby, it might be a long time ago now but the memories and heartache don't fade. Yes, your post did make me feel sad, but not in a bad way. It's hard to put into words (darned brain fog) but glances back into what has gone before can be soothing and not hurtful.
Please don't let someones comments make you close your blog, you are an inspiration to those who visit.
Perhaps leave your blog open and just post when you feel like it?
You would be missed.
Blog world is a strange place, friends are made through the writing of a few words yet much hurt can also be caused by a different writing of a few words.
If you do go then my very best wishes go with you and I'm sorry I haven't commented more often to support you.
Jane
Please don't go Lynn! so many of us love reading your posts.
Yes, sometimes people do respond in a negative way to something - but those comments are far outweighed by all the others from your true friends.
It is easy to say 'let it go and move on' - because inevitably a nasty remark hangs around for much longer than it ought to.
But be assured that whatever your decision, you're in our thoughts and prayers
bless you xx
I'm so sorry to hear that you're blog won't be part of my day anymore, but more sad to know that anyone would make hurtful comments to you about such a touching post!
I, too, lost a baby ( my only pregnancy), and I know that you never forget.
Thank you, for sharing with us for as long as you have. May blessings follow you, always!
Lynn, I feel sad about your decision and will personally miss your steadfast good humor. I understand about being depressed and believe me, I understand what courage it takes to be open with your life. It's funny, you have come to mind nearly every day this week and I've said short prayers for you. I pray blessings on whatever you choose to do, but know you will be greatly missed if you close up shop, but wished loads of blessings.
Lyn-I was so sorry to read this. I have only been reading your blog for a couple of weeks and have enjoyed it so much. Not only is your writing inspirational but your photos are so lovely- You have a real gift to trigger the imagination. You will be really missed in bloggyland I'm sure if you decide to stop. Anyway take care. God bless you. Caroline
Oh Lynn, I've been away from blogland this week and had no idea you'd reached this decision. Please reconsider, as the good far outweighs the bad in blogland. It wouldn't be the same around here without you! Much love, Tina xxx
Oh Lynn I am so sorry you have had to endure this. We will be so sad to lose you and your friendly, colourful posts.
I, too, have suffered from depression and I know how hard it is to get going every day. I could never imagine writing a blog anywhere near as inspiring as yours. I am full of admiration for you and I will miss my visits here.
Good luck to you.
Love and hugs Topnan xx.
Lynn, I've already commented earlier but have thought lots about your situation since then.
We're all saying please don't go because we'll miss you. Which we will.
But the main thing is YOU. You mentioned that having the blog has helped on your black dog days, that you've gained much from having it in other ways too. Please don't be hasty and finish doing something which helps YOU because of some hurtful comments.
Think about what is best for you.
Jane
Hello dear Lyn, I am so sorry that you have had to endure this pain and hurt, you are such an insperation to so many, I do not suffer depression but hubby does and our son and on those dark days you need something to keep you going and your blog has done that for you and in turn has shown us that if you can get through a bad day so can we.No pressure on your decision but I think the good outweighs the bad in comments and we would love to keep encouraging you and supporting you and be there for you as you take us on your journey,at the end of the day you must do what is best for you,God will guide you in this and hopefully you will stay,I saw a poster a long time ago and got it for my fridge it is one polar bear hugging another and it says "don't listen to a thing those nasty people have to say" it reminds me from time to time that others just do not have a kind soul where as you lyn have a heart and soul of gold xxxx
I really hope you reconsider. You are such a bright light. I would miss you terribly.
I know I've already commented, but I agree with everyone else.....blogging has been good for YOU, and you've enjoyed it. I love how my blog makes me view the world more positively, and that I look for nice things to photograph and share with everyone. It brings the best out of me. Please don't delete all the happy memories here, I regret doing that with my old blog. :(
You have a network of likeminded gals here, who love you for who you are, and appreciate your advice, ideas and daily thoughts. You are cherished here Lynn, and we don't want to lose you!
Big hugs, Tina xxxx
Lynn,
I'm sorry that those comments hurt you so much that you have to consider stopping. Please don't take your blog down. I don't comment often enough, but I always enjoy your writing & your lovely photo's. You got me into card making which I now enjoy so much.
Keeping you in my prayers & thoughts
Kim (Birmingham)
I am so sorry that you received an ugly comment to what was a beautiful post. I live across the pond in New England and have really enjoyed a glimpse into my English heritage. :). I hope you reconsider but I do understand. Depression is often my companion as well.
Dear Lynn - like several others I have only found your blog very recently but now I always click on it first when my blog reader says you've updated! Thank you for your uplifting and inspiring insights into every day life, and your courage to publicly touch on the struggles that many of us have also experienced. Wishing you all the best whatever you decide ... but hoping we still get to follow your journey!.
Marion
I'm so sorry you're ending your blog. I have had the same thoughts lately, but reached out to my readers for advice and was very encouraged to keep it going when I found out it helped others just a little bit.
I understand how a discouraging word can at times be devasting. I just can't understand how anyone found anything in your sweet Mother's Day post to criticize. Please take care of yourself.
Sherry @ A Happy Valentine
I just love reading your blog, your humour in the face of adversity and the way your words are so inspirational to me and many others. Your blog will be very much missed by me and obviously many readers out there. I am so sorry you have been hurt by someone's cruel words and hope they will soon be forgotten and you can find joy in your life again. God bless, love Lesley.
I am so sorry that you too have received some very nasty comments like Frugal Queen Why do people feel that can write some cruel comments.
Hope you change your mind
I don't usually comment but I would like to let you know that I have really enjoyed reading your blog (it is listed in my favourites) and I am so very sorry that you have decided to stop writing. You have cheered me up so many times and I always look forward to what see what you will write next. Do what you have to do Lynn but please don't let other people get you down. Add me to the list of people who hope you will change your mind.
Blessings
Louise
Hi Lynn,
I don't have a blog.I haven't learned enough computer skills yet.
That is one reason.The main reason though is that ladies like you do it SO much better than I ever could.
Please think again. x
Lynn,
I am sorry to hear of the hurtful comment. The old Quakers talked of "laying down" a ministry when it's time was done. If you've prayed and found counsel and have decided that time is here, may you find peace with your new ventures. But if your decision is made solely out of the pain, don't let the critical people win--keep blogging.
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I have just met you (thanks for your sound advice BTW) and now I find you are going! I am so sorry that you have been hurt by thoughless or malicious comments. We bloggers expose ourselves to this, I suppose, but it still horrifies me how cruel people can be on the internet. If you do re-think, I will come back and visit you again, but God bless you either way.
ynn,
my first visit here - I agree blogs can really help us through stuff and I would ask you too, to reconsider. Some people can be very hurtful and I am a sensitive soul too - but look at the support so many have given you here in the comments section - focus on this good, honest, loving aspect and let it was the negative small minded incident away.
((((HUGS))))
Denise x
Lynn, there really isn't anything I can say that hasn't been said already, but I have to say it anyway.
I am just all-around sorry that you have decided to close your blog. It is one of my very favorite ones.
I, too, lost a baby, so I understand how you feel. What I don't understand is how someone found anything offensive there. Please do not feel burdened that you may offend someone. I'm just half joking to say that closing your blog will offend someone else, so...It cannot be helped. It is my observation that there is always someone willing to be offended. :-P
I hope that you will take heart from your supporters, which are many, and if you can find it in your heart to stay, you will have a lot of happy bloggy friends. ;-) If you must go, you will still have a lot of bloggy friends. We just won't be as happy.
Be blessed, and I wish you the best. I love you!
P.S. My word verification is "tuffi" hmmmm.... :-D
I am sorry that our of hurt or spite someone has been hurtful to you. You bring light into so many lives. I too read your Mother's Day post, I have not had children, but suffered the loss of a beautiful step-grandchild, they are never forgotten. I hope that you wil feel that you can leave your blog, rest for a while, and perhaps then come back to us, so amny of us would miss you. Love and hugs. Ali. xx
Please don't get rid of your blog! I too have suffered from depression for a number of years and can certainly understand how comments can be hurtful. It can be difficult to put a positive spin on it, but maybe, just maybe, as you said, the people who made the comments might be hurting too and your blog is making them address these hurts. REMEMBER, the vast majority of people who read your blog are 100% behind you and will offer you all the support and love you need. Keep blogging! Cx♥
Lynn, I am so upset that you are leaving blogland. I know I haven't blogged much recently due to working full-time, but I am always massively comforted by the fact that you are just up the road from me in Tamworth, blogging away just like me. I do hope that you reconsider your decision.
It seems that you've been criticised over something deeply sensitive, but God knows our hurts, take them to Him, and then please keep blogging! xxxxx
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